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Life, Death, and the Diagnosis That Came Between Us
Dear Mom, I’ve been writing a lot lately about my need and desire to forgive and move on from the mistakes I made as a teenager and young adult. All the moments when I screwed up and all the apologies… Continue reading
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The Complexities of Compassion
Dear Mom, You have been dead for nine and a half years. With every day it feels like what you have missed multiplies exponentially. It can feel shocking at times. As if you wouldn’t even know me if you passed… Continue reading
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Can I Take Responsibility and Still Question Everything?
Dear Mom, Yesterday morning at breakfast, Idris asked me how I could send you letters if you’re dead. Good question, right? My answer was that I am not sending the letters anywhere. I’m simply writing them. In the hopes that… Continue reading
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The Duality of Vulnerability
Dear Mom, When I first started writing these letters to you, I opened myself up to criticism that made me deeply uncomfortable. Similar to the themes of last week, getting criticism, especially criticism about my writing and ultimately my feelings,… Continue reading
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Mothers and Daughters
Dear Mom, It’s not lost on me that I waited until after your death to ask you the big questions. That I am actively choosing to ask you because you can’t answer. I realize now that there were many times… Continue reading
Sober Letters to Mom 